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I happened to read this somewhere on d web. It's like how true!!


"Honeymoon periods in a relationship are often the most wonderful. 2 wonderful lovebirds going totally crazy over each other. He can pick his nose in public and you'll think he looks cute. That's the power of love. Or is it true love.

2 months, 3 months or even 6 months a 'honeymoon period' can last. Can it last forever? Or rather should there even be a 'honeymoon period'. The equation is simple. A guy goes crazy over a girl. She plays hard to get even though she likes him. They got together after tons of effort put in from the guy. From Royce chocolates to lovely lilies. Fetching her to school/work everyday. Buys her dinner to her place when she says she's hungry and alone at home. 'I like this top.' Abracadabra, she gets it the next day on her table. Simple, the guy went all out to impress the lady. The wooing procedure every lady would appreciate.

They get together after she gets moved by all the effort and time spent on her. They undergo the 'honeymoon period' whereby it is definitely similar to the wooing procedure. He puts in the same amount of effort, energy and time. Flowers still appear so does the tops and skirts. These goes on for 3 months? 6 months? Things start to go away slowly... First the flowers, then the tops. Soon, you'll be meeting your beau directly in town for movie. That is when problems start surfacing and argues and quarrels comes in.

One fine day after an extremely heated argument, she blasted 'You've changed!' End of story. Sorry mate, you lost. Yes, you've changed. Or rather you've just transformed back to normal. Simply cause you're just not yourself when you're wooing her. Hello, wake up. You're not the best guy on earth and you never will be. Be yourself and if she does love you. She will love you for who you are.

My ex once asked me. 'Hey, you did not need to put in much effort to woo me!' I replied, 'Do you want chocolates, flowers and effort placed upon you for 6 months or for the rest of your life?' Do your calculation. Period. "


if u've like been thru it, u'll know what it means. if u've never been thru it, LEARN something from all that.

Pre-school children were asked the following question:
"In which direction is the bus pictured below traveling?"



Look carefully at the picture.

Do you know the answer?

The only possible answers are "left" or "right."



Think about it




Still don't know?





Okay, I'll tell you.







The pre-schoolers all answered "right"

When asked, "Why do you think the bus is traveling in the right direction?"

they answered:

"Because you can't see the door."



Feel pretty stupid now, don't you?

Me too.

1. Women are unpredictable. Before marriage, she expects a man, after marriage she suspects him, and after death she respects him.

2. There was this guy who told his woman that he loved her so much that he would go thru hell for her. They got married - and now he is going thru hell.

3. A man inserted an 'ad' in the classifieds : "Wife wanted ". Next day, he received a hundred letters. They all said the same thing : "You can have mine."

4. When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one thing : either the car is new or the wife.

5. It's easy to tell if a man is married or not. Just watch him drive a car with a woman sitting beside him. If both his hands are on the wheel, you can be sure he is married.

6. A man received a letter from some kidnappers. The letter said, "If you don't promise to send us $100,000 I swear that we will kidnap your wife." The poor man wrote back, " I am afraid I can't keep my promise, but I hope you will keep yours."

7. What's the matter, you look depressed." "I'm having trouble with my wife." "What happened?" "She said she wasn't going to speak to me for 30 days." "But that ought to make you happy." "It did, but today is the last day."


WOMAN

When she is 18 - She is a football, 22 men going after her.

When she is 28 - She is a hockey ball, 8 men going after her.

When she is 38 - She is a golf ball, 1 man hitting on her.

When she is 48 - She is a pingpong ball, 2 men pushing to each other.


MAN

At 20 - A man is like a coconut, so much to offer, so little to give.

At 30 - He is like a durian, dangerous but delicious.

At 40 - He is like a watermelon, big, round and juicy.

At 50 - He is like a mandarin orange, the season comes once in a year.

At 60 - He is just like a raisin, dried out, wrinkles and cheap.



Marriage Humour In the beginning,

-- God created earth and rested. Then God created man and rested.
Then God created woman. Since then, neither God nor man has rested.

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question.
She said,"How do I know if I married the right person?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said,
"It depends. Is that your husband?"

In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are
good that it's weighing on your mind.



Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with
your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked
their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a
completely natural and spontaneous experience.
You didn't have to DO anything.
That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.



People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the
imagery of that ____expression. It implies that you were just standing
there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the
natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls
become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when
it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute,
drives you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you
think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between
the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry
subsequent stage.



At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry
the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of
the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with
someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their
spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for
fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is
the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a
friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It
lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You
could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a
few years later.


SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER
just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it
day in and day out. That's why we have the ____expression "the labor of
love."

Because it takes time, effort and energy. And most importantly, it
takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific
things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your
marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there
are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise
program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your
relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and
effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable...
you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE
RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.